|Sunday, January 18, 2009
Hello.its bloggin time! =)past few days have been less hectic ( less doesnt mean not. haha)with 2 projects down, life seems a little lighter. =)Dance was fun shit on sat!the new o sch is super small for the 70 of us?but it was only for a while..thank god gin plucked out the seniors to another room.that room is kinda scary, cos its open to the public to see..so pai sae!and gin was funny enough to stand outside and pretend to be a passer-by.YA RITE. we all faced her and danced.hhahaha...Anywae, she also taugh us the choreo 1 eight by 1 eight.it sounded scary at first..but wen we could do it,we were all happyyyyyy!don stress ba.. don waste your mind space on thinking how you cannot do it.Anywae, chinese new year is just round the corner.have i mentioned how happy i am this CNY?if only sis was here..but she's also happy la..in ROME NOWW.. tsk!Learning to RecieveQuoted from John GraySetting limits and receiving are two very scary things for women. She is commonly afraid of receiving too much and then rejected, judged or abandoned. Rejection, abandonment and judgement are most painful because deep insider her unconscoius, she holds the belief that she is not worthy of recieving more. This feeling is probably formed and reinforced during her childhood times when she had to suppress her feelings, needs or wished.A women is very vulnerable to the incorrect belief of not being worthy of love. If as a child she has witness abuse or have been abused, she is then even more vulnerable to finding worthiness of recieving love. These in the unconscious generates fear of needing love from others. A part of her imagines she will not be supported.Becuase of this fear, she pushes away the support she needs. When a men receives the message that she does not trust him to fulfil her needs, he feels turned off. .................................. As such times, women assumes that having needs turns him off when in truth it was her hopelessness, desperation, and mistrust that has done so. .......................... Needing others puts her in a vulnerable position. Being ignored or disappointed hurts even more cos it affirms the incorrect belief that she is unworthy.Women would give and give, but deep inside, they did not feel worthy of recieving. They hoped that by giving, they would become more worthy of recieivng. They thought that compulsive giving would solve the problem howevere, it only made them exhausted. Then through long gradual giving, they saw that others were worthy of receiving and they were too....... People will only give when you are ready to receive.Something i've learnt and identified with recently..i'm sharing it with you girls out there =)take time off to think bout it! =D
the garden in my heart.messed.
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